RECITING WEDDING VOWS
TIPS FOR SAYING YOUR WEDDING VOWS
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When your wedding day
finally comes, you will probably be feeling excited and nervous at
the same time. This will be especially true during your wedding
ceremony when you go to start reciting your wedding vows. Because your wedding vows
are so important, you want to make sure you say them just right. To
help you in say your vows the way you want to, we've put together the
top tips for saying wedding vows.
Your wedding vows are
meant for your future spouse, but it's likely that there are other
people present when you say them. If you whisper your wedding
vows, your friends and family will be missing out on one of the most
special parts of the ceremony. Speak up so that everyone can hear
the wonderful things that you'll say.
Look for Your Fiancé
wedding vows, instead of looking at the officiant, at your friends
and family or at your toes, look into the eyes of your fiancé.
Imagine that your wedding vows are a conversation between the two of
you. When you are staring deep into your sweetheart's eyes, you
will have a special connection to each other. Gazing into his/her
eyes will not only put you at ease, but it will also make your vows
Practice Makes Perfect
If you've taken
careful time and consideration in creating your wedding vows, you
certainly don't want to look as if you are saying them for the first
time when you need to recite your vows in public. Practice reciting your
wedding vows many times before you actually have to say them.
Practice them whenever you can; while you're brushing your teeth,
when you're in the car, while you're getting dressed in the
morning. If you don't have much time to practice, that's okay too.
Practicing for just ten or fifteen minutes will be a huge help in
making you familiar and comfortable with saying your vows.
Pay Attention to What You're Saying
Think about what your
wedding vows mean as you're saying them. Pause where appropriate.
Think of your vows as complete thoughts and say them that way. It's
okay if you become emotional while saying your wedding vows; they
should be emotional to you. If you really feel connected to what
you're saying, your fiancé and everyone else will pick up on it. So
please, make sure you mean your wedding vows and you believe in what
you're saying. Sincerity and genuine emotion cannot be faked.
Speak Slowly and Clearly
This seems like a
no-brainer, but because very few people speak in public on a regular
basis, it's important to mention that you need to speak your wedding
vows slowly and clearly. Many people speak faster when they are
nervous, if you do this, take special notice and try to speak very
slowly. Enunciate your words and say them at a slow pace. You want
to be sure that your fiancé clearly hears everything that you're
saying and you also want to make sure that the other people present
can understand you.
Put Your Vows in Safekeeping
Whether or not you
choose to memorize your wedding vows, write down a few copies of
your vows and make them available on your wedding day. Keep a copy
of your wedding vows with you, with one of your attendants and give
a copy to the officiant. Even if you've committed your vows to
memory, you may get tongue-tied when it's time for you to say them.
It would be a shame not to say the vows you've carefully created
just because you didn't think to have a copy on hand.
Visualize Your Vows
Go over the activity
of saying your wedding vows in your head several times and picture a
successful outcome. Imagine saying your vows perfectly and looking
into your partners eyes. Think about your family and friends coming
up to you after the ceremony and congratulating you on your
beautiful words. Visualizing your success will give you confidence
and will prepare you for the big day. So when you are actually
saying your wedding vows, it will be just another rehearsal of what
you've already done many times in your own mind.
Hear it Out Loud
Once your wedding vows
are written, rehearse them out loud several times. Going over your
wedding vows by actually saying them out loud will help with the
flow of your vows. This process will also alert you to any words or
phrases that don't quite fit. Because these wedding vows are
written by you, they should sound natural coming from you. If any
of the words don't sound like something you would say, take them out
and replace them with words that better fit your vocabulary. Once
you're happy with how your wedding vows sound, repeat them a few
times in front of a close friend or family member. Doing so will
give you more confidence about reciting your vows in front of a
Do it Line by Line
If you want to
memorize your wedding vows, it's easier if you do it line by line.
Take the first line of your wedding vows, read over it several times
out loud and commit it to memory. Do this line by line, and then go
back and do the first line, then the first and the second line, then
the first, second and third line, and so on until every line is
memorized. Because most wedding vows have several lines with a
similar structure (for example, to have and to hold, to honor and to
comfort) you may also find it helpful to use the main points of
those lines to jog your memory. If you know the general structure of
your wedding vows, you can just memorize the main points (for
example, have, hold, honor and comfort.) Either way, committing your
wedding vows to memory makes them seem more meaningful and sincere
when you say them, and that is something that everyone will notice.
Take a Deep Breath and Relax
If you are nervous or
have wedding jitters, take a deep breath and calm your mind. Yes,
you are saying these words in front of a group of people, but the
main person that you're saying them to loves you and is not judging
you in any way. And, if you say something a little different than
your actual written vows or if you skip over part of what you
planned to say, don't worry. Remember, nobody knows what you're
going to say except you!